Let’s go with the good news first. Some studies and polls have shown that both men and women alike feel it is O.K. to lie to a potential sex partner if the following conditions exist:
* It’s a grudge fuck
* It’s a one night stand
* If it’s a white lie
The first one is pretty self-explanatory. If it’s a grudge fuck, you have a problem with this chick but it’s not too bad of a problem because you still think she’s hot and the two of you can stand to be around each other (and naked). However, the problem is big enough that you feel a little pissy and so does she. A nice grudgingly roll in the hay may be exactly what you both need. Here’s where the lie comes in. You may have to insult her a little to keep her on her toes and aware you’re pissed. You won’t feel it and it will be a lie but she can’t think you’re getting soft. Tell her that her hair could use some attention or her nose is a bit shiny.
Guys also feel it’s OK to lie if you both know it’s a one night stand. Most women as well feel this is fairly harmless and almost expected as part of the game. You will never see each other again, what difference does it make if she thinks your name is Mark and you work at the bus station or your name is Jean Paul and you’re a fighter pilot leaving the country the next day? When both partners enter into a sexual relationship with the full knowledge it is a once in a lifetime moment, they often get carried away. It’s the feeling they are after and not the details, so backstories are inconsequential. It is also OK to tell a lie to get laid if it’s a little-bitty white lie like “No, dear! Your butt does not look big in those jeans.” “You don’t look a day over 28.” “No. Go on. I love hearing about the office gossip.” All in the name of a piece of ass. That’s OK though. It’s the give and take of a relationship. It makes life easier for both of you. Don’t think she doesn’t have little, white lies of her own.